Tips for Socialization
April 24, 2008 – 9:43 am
Hey Buddy, do you realize that some people got new friend easily and some other did not? They look so proud and confident in the crowd. If you wanna be like ‘em, try these tips to correcting your mind set.
Here is some negative self-talk that might come up when you think of working a room:
• I’ve always had trouble meeting people. It’s just the way I am.
• I can’t make—and don’t like—small talk.
• I don’t have anything important or interesting to say. I’ll just embarrass myself. Better to keep quiet and be cool.
• Why would anyone want to listen to me? All these people have more important things to do.
Take a moment to write down any negative self-talk you may have, and then rewrite those statements as positive ones. The above comments might be rewritten as:
• I’m having fun practicing meeting people, and getting better at it all the time. I’m enjoying mastering a new skill.
• Small talk is a great way to get to know new people.
• I want to extend myself to other people and know that the most valuable thing I have to offer is myself. If I’m open and honest, I’ll feel good about myself and so will they.
• We’re all busy, but everyone enjoys connecting with other people. I’m a valuable, likable person. Extending myself is a gift that others appreciate.
Good luck, Buddy!
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